英语四级美文：为什么手机对养育孩子不利？

　　Our children will always know whether they have our full attention. It's time for parents to break the phone habit before it's too late.

　　There was something to be said for the old-fashioned landline, with a handsetso bulky, you had to tuckit between your neck and shoulder to get your hands free. They didn’t —couldn’t —go everywhere with us. Now we’re tetheredto our mobiles —addicted, even. They’ve become handy tools for avoidance, and it’s our children who are getting the bad end of the deal.

　　All around me, I see parents with their babies and toddlersand young kids —but not with them. The grownups are on the phone. The dad pushing his son on the swing set while hands-free on his mobile isn’t really with his child. The mom pushing her baby in a pramwhile she’s yakking on the phone isn’t really with her child.

　　The kids aren’t too happy about it. They’re pulling on their parents’ clothes. They’re yankingon their arms. They’re acting out to get attention. I’ve heard them begging their parents to stop, disconnect. I’ve watched children start to whimperthe minute the mobile is picked up —off the dinner table. During dinner. The son of a friend of mine recently announced, at age 10, that he hates cell phones. Actually, he will tell you he hates technology. IPads don’t fool him. Neither does texting. He understands that his father can never get away from his work —and the office won’t get away from his father. He sees the phone, and he thinks, I’ve lost my dad’s attention. And that’s what children crave: attention. We all do.

　　Parents have to break the phone habit before it is too late. I’m not talking about getting extreme here —no phone calls around a child, ever. But I am talking about giving more thought to all the missed opportunities for communicating with a child. For simply being with her. Quietly. I was pleased to find the blog of a young mother from Alabama, Rachel Stafford, who has started an aptlytitled campaign called Hands Free Mama, encouraging parents to put away the tech toys and be present with their children.

　　Is being a parent boring? Sometimes. Lots of times. And guess what. Those boring moments are what you will miss the most once your children are grown. Carpool is when you should be hanging on every word. Walks are when the world unfolds at a child’s feet, in the safety of your company. The parent is the genius who gives names to things and encourages a child’s attention to detail on the path. The tiny accretionof daily routines is dull and divine. Of course there’s always plenty of time for a phone call, or 10 of them. Children are always slowly walking, slowly eating, slowly looking, slowly reading, slowly going nowhere, until suddenly they’re gone.

　　And giving the kids their own phones in the name of fair play doesn’t cut it. That’s happening all too often; families are together, but each person is in her own bubbleof technology. Some of us worry about radiationand the developing brain. But we should be worried about disconnectedness and the developing mind.

　　One day, sooner than you realize, you will be with your child, wanting to talk. But she’ll be too busy. Talking to someone who isn’t there. And why not? You weren’t there when she was.

　　【重点单词及短语】

　　swing set （组合）秋千

　　pull on 拉；穿；戴

　　act out 把…表演出来；把…付诸行动

　　divine adj. 神圣的；非凡的；天赐的；极好的

　　Question time:

　　1. Does the author urge parents to get rid of cell phones completely?

　　2. Can you summarize the damages of parents' using of cell phones according to the passage?

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